Some in the MSM have already concluded that Donald Trump is not just unfit to be president but that “a Trump presidency would be dangerous for the nation and the world,” as the editorial board of the Washington Post put it. But others keep holding out irrational hope that, perhaps with an “intervention,” he’ll somehow change, become more “presidential,” or otherwise prove himself worthy of election.
Here’s why that won’t happen, which we wish the damn TV bloviators would get:
Trump can’t help himself. He’s a 70-year-old man with an extreme narcissistic personality disorder, and, as such, is psychologically incapable of altering who he is and how he reacts to the world.
What makes a nacrissist tick? Why, some obscenely overpaid commentators ask endlessly, did Trump attack Khizr and Glazala Khan, the Pakistani American parents of Army Capt. Humayun Khan, who was killed in 2004 during the Iraq War?
Of course it made no political sense, it was beyond the bounds of acceptable behavior for anyone in American politics and ultimately, blew up in Trump’s face.
Because, you dolts, he HAD to attack the Khans. He couldn’t NOT attack them. Because a narcissist cannot allow any critique – let alone an eloquent public shaming – to go unanswered. In fact, as narcissists are well known to do, he had to strike back with even greater force than the original critique.
These are the classic characteristics of NPO:
Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance; expecting to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it; exaggerating one’s achievements and talents; being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate; believing that one is superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people; requiring constant admiration; having a sense of entitlement; expecting special favors and unquestioning compliance with one’s expectations; taking advantage of others to get what one wants; having an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others; being envious of others and believing others envy you; behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner.
Beyond this, Trump in his eagerness to respond proved he has no clue what the U.S. Constitution says (or at least his ignorance of the rights granted by the First Amendment) when he tweeted: “Mr. Khan, who has never met me, has no right to stand in front of millions of people and claim I have never read the Constitution, which is false.” [Emphasis ours]. Great, crazy and stupid.
His ego can’t tolerate critique A few years ago, Dr. Leon Selzer wrote in Psychology Today:
When criticized, narcissists show themselves woefully incapable of retaining any emotional poise, or receptivity. And it really doesn’t much matter whether the nature of that criticism is constructive or destructive. They just don’t seem to be able to take criticism, period. At the same time, these disturbed individuals demonstrate an abnormally developed capacity to criticize others (as in, “dish it out” to them).
Although narcissists don’t (or won’t) show it, all perceived criticism feels gravely threatening to them (the reason that their inflamed, over-the-top reactions to it can leave us so surprised and confused). Deep down, clinging desperately not simply to a positive but grandiose sense of self, they’re compelled at all costs to block out any negative feedback about themselves. Their dilemma is that the rigidity of their defenses, their inability ever to let their guard down (even with those closest to them), guarantees that they’ll never get what they most need, which they themselves are sadly–no, tragically–oblivious of.
Me, Me, Me: Trump, who has argued “America First” and “Only I can fix it,” has conflated the nation with himself. As Dr. Judith Orloff, wrote of narcissists:
Their motto is “Me first!” Everything’s all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, crave admiration and attention. A legend in their own mind, the world is reflected in their image. They’ll corner you at a party, recount their life saga. Some narcissists are unlikable, flagrant egotists. Others can be charming, intelligent, caring–that is, until their guru-status is threatened. When you stop stroking their ego or beg to disagree, they can turn on you and become punishing. Once you catch onto this pattern, a narcissist seems about as charming as a banana peel.
These people are so dangerous because they lack empathy, have a limited capacity for unconditional love. Sadly, their hearts either haven’t developed or have been shut down due to early psychic trauma, such as being raised by narcissistic parents, a crippling handicap both emotionally and spiritually. (The damage of narcissistic parenting is outstandingly detailed in Alice Miller’s “Drama of the Gifted Child”). Hard as it may be to comprehend, these people have little insight into their actions, nor do they regret them. Though often highly intuitive, they mainly use intuition for self-interest and manipulation. As the Hassidic proverb cautions, “There is no room for God in him that is full of himself.”
With children who seem to suffer from Stockholm Syndrome, immigrant or low-IQ wives in relationships where he has all the power, and a sick fixation on the size of his teeny little hands, Trump is psychologically unable to respond to his critics with any degree of moderation.
They can’t help themselves: This was outlined convincingly in an article titled “Impulsivity and the Self-Defeating Behavior of Narcissists,” by Simmie Vazire of the University of Texas and David Funder of UC Riverside, in the journal “Personality and Social Psychology Review.”
Why do narcissists engage in behaviors that undermine their urgent goals of power and recognition? We have argued here that sometimes the answer may be very simple: Because they can’t help it.[Emaphasis ours] The paradoxical behavior of narcissists, such as their limitless self-enhancement, counterproductive aggression, and preference for short-term immediate gratification over long-term benefits may be driven in part by their dispositional impulsivity.
Hillary Clinton was exactly correct when she said, “Imagine him in the Oval Office facing a real crisis. A man you can bait with a tweet is not a man we can trust with nuclear weapons.”
If the MSM would get what Calbuzz has been arguing for a year now, they would be able to explain why Trump can only perform as the narcissist who ate New York.